The first of several holiday gatherings is rapidly approaching, and you may be struggling to maintain your energy levels and mental clarity due to this season of life you're in. Before you arrive, it's essential to be aware and prepared for the two types of individuals you may encounter who can pose a challenge to your health journey.
First, there's the saboteur, who will be anxious to offer a plate of your favorite yummy goodies and get you off track. Then, there's the overzealous health advisor (possibly even ourselves, I know I've been guilty), who means well but can unintentionally add guilt or shame.
Let's explore these two contrasting dynamics, drawing on Scripture and practical, God-designed strategies to help you respond this holiday season with grace and gratitude while practicing temple stewardship with peace.
"What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Dealing with the Sabotage
When you made the bold decision to eat healthier, perhaps swapping processed sweets for nutrient-rich alternatives like a Lara Bar, did you find yourself facing subtle (or not-so-subtle) resistance? Oh, girl, I know the feeling. When you draw that line in the sand, not everyone cheers you on. Some might celebrate your commitment, but others, the saboteurs, show up with donuts or brownies, casually saying, "Just one won't hurt." My first thought is, "Get thee behind me, Satan."
It's as if your discipline shines a light on their own struggles, making them uncomfortable. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 27:6 (KJV), "Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." These saboteurs aren't always enemies, but their actions can wound our resolve if we're not prepared to see Satan's attack at a weak moment.
Why do they do this? Often, it's because your healthy choices highlight their lack of discipline, prompting them to try to pull you down to feel better about themselves. As busy midlife homemakers, we're already stretched thin, dealing with sleepless nights and foggy days, so this dose of sugar is very tempting as a quick energy fix.
Jesus was ready with a reply when Satan came tempting him; likewise, we must be prepared to respond kindly, without diving into lengthy explanations that might lead to conflict.
For instance, you could say something simple like, "No, thanks—I'm good," or a little light-hearted, "I'm keeping my body in subjection today," echoing Paul in 1 Corinthians 9:27.
Or try a simple explanation, "I appreciate you thinking of me, but my body doesn't respond well when I eat that." No speeches, no guilt, just a firm boundary rooted in gratitude. This approach protects your health stewardship, much like someone overcoming an addiction might avoid triggers. Remember, protecting your temple isn't selfish; it's an act of obedience to the One who designed it.
The Overzealous Health Advisor
On the other hand, you may be the well-meaning person who wants to open their eyes to healthier choices but uses the wrong methods to do so. As someone who has walked the path of overcoming exhaustion and inflammation through natural means, I understand how deeply we care about our loved ones. We remember the days of sugar crashes and chronic pain, and we want to spare others from that struggle that comes with a damaging lifestyle. However, what we intend as helpful encouragement can sometimes come across as food policing or judgmental comments, turning a joyful gathering into one of shame or rejection.
The truth is, change doesn't come from our words alone; it starts in the heart, as the Holy Spirit gently convicts. Romans 14:19 wisely counsels, "Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another." Instead of focusing on someone else's plate, let's trust that God will open their eyes when they're ready, just as He did for us. Your healthier choices speak much louder than any joking comment you will ever make. People notice when you're vibrant and at peace, even amidst holiday busyness, and that testimony can plant seeds for their own transformation.
Friends, we must remember that shaming others isn't our role; the Holy Spirit handles that with perfect timing. I've learned this the hard way: focusing on my own journey with biblical principles and natural health has been far more effective than trying to "help" everyone else.
"Unsolicited advice is rarely heeded."
What if you're the one receiving the unsolicited help? Kindly return their advice to them, "Thanks for your concern, but I'm not ready to change my health. Maybe if you keep praying for me, the Lord will change my heart."
Practical Tips for Peaceful Gatherings
The best approach to handling people is to lean on Scripture for guidance. Romans 14:19 is a good blueprint for holiday harmony.
“Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace and things wherewith one may edify another.”
By pursuing peace and edification, we create an environment where gatherings are enjoyable for everyone and no one feels alienated for their food choices.
By mentally preparing for encounters with others, we're not only protecting our health and relationships with the unhealthy, but also reflecting Christ's love. Let's make this holiday season one of joy and stewardship, trusting God with the outcomes.
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